Schofield Suggestions: Week 6

Claudine 15(3)
Dear Schofield,
I’m 16 years old, and I want to know how I can make my life easier and not be as shy as I am. I have a lot of friends at school, but of course they’re not popular either. I want to still have those friends, but I’d like to be able to strike up conversations with other people. When I try, I get nervous and chicken out before I can get a word out. I want to improve my communication skills and come across as more friendly and natural. How do I do this?  HELP!
Sincerely,
A Big Chicken
Dear Chicken,
It’s normal to get nervous when trying to get to know new people. The first step should  be picking people with whom you share the same interests or activities, and someone who you believe to be nice or kind. If you are a positive person please make sure you don’t allow people into your circle that don’t share the same goals, value, morals and standards as you and your friends. If they do ,then do some investigation to find out what they like and dislike. Small talk is important, the hardest part of talkinig to someone new is getting started. You may want to start with a conversation opener like, “Hi, my name is, we are in the same  math class” or give a compliment, “I really like your hair style” Making friends is a skill that you can practice and get better at, just like a sport. Be patient, and choose your friends wisely.
Holla Back!
~Schofield